Yesterday my 8 year old son was accused of racism at school. One of his black friends was pulling monkey faces and he pointed to a picture of a monkey in a book that he was reading and said the boy looked like the monkey. He realised that the boy might have been offended so he apologised and when another friend said the same thing he told her not to because it might be racist.
Later in the day, the boy said the word “sex” which they’re not allowed to say at the school. While they were talking about punishment for it another child told the teacher about my son calling the boy a monkey. The teacher bawled at him that he was being racist and took him to the deputy head.
This morning Mrs Sane went to see the deputy head who told her that he knew it wasn’t intended as a racist insult but it would have to go on record as such and he has been told he isn’t allowed to read his poem out at the christmas play – someone else will read it instead.
When I phoned this afternoon the deputy head had changed his mind and catagorically stated that it was a racist incident. When I talked to my son this evening it turns out that the deputy head didn’t even have the right story!
The whole thing revolves around the fact that, somehow, my son has got the idea that if he offends somebody who is black or asian then that is racism whether it was racially motivated or not. He hasn’t got that idea from home so it must have come from the school.
I complained to the head teacher and even though she also had the same story as the deputy head – ie. the wrong one – and didn’t know that anything had even happened until I phoned earlier in the day, she also categorically stated that it was a racist insult.
I asked why it’s not possible for an 8 year old child to innocently call another child a monkey without it being racist but she couldn’t tell me that – apparently that’s a bigger issue. I asked he if the black child pointed to a white monkey in a book and my child was pulling monkey faces and he called him a monkey, if that would be racist and she said no. When I asked why she couldn’t tell me. When I saked who decided the policy on what is and isn’t racist she wouldn’t tell me. I’ve since contacted the council and they told me it is the school that writes the policy.
So there you have it. At 8 years old my son is branded a racist and his 8 year old school friend (he’s friends with the black boy) has had it reaffirmed to him that he’s a victim. Needless to say I am livid and I will kick up a fuss until I get satisfaction. Does anyone know if it is possible to slander a minor?